Rollercoasters are a great past time of mine and in many way a great analogy for not just goal setting but for my life and I am willing to bet for your life and goal setting as well. You often spend lots of time, even hours more, than you would like, waiting for the moment that the ride actually begins (that first step towards your goal). Then comes that slow climb to the top, you heart racing in your chest, and WHOOSH you are off to the races. The first invigorating plunge into your major goal then right turns, and left turns, U-turns and screams combined with more climbs up and dives down. This happens over and over again with a couple of pauses before the next plunge back into your goal. But ONLY pausing long enough for you to just catch your breath then it hits you all over again until BAM, it’s all over.
For a little while your heart continues to race, your turn to your friend and excitedly share what just experienced, whether it’s perceived as good or perceived as bad, then you leave. Sometimes, you leave the ride (the life experience or the goal that you set) wanting more. Perhaps you want to do it again. You might even rush right back into line to do just that. Other times you leave the ride or the goal setting or life experience never wanting to do it EVER again – and so you don’t – then you become one of those left out of the experiences as the stand at the exit, pouting feeling left out, when see all the riders (goal setters) coming out exhilarated and wanting to do it all again. Has your life been a bit like that, even partly, at specific times? I know mine has!
First off, let me say it is not my goal to try and spin some sob story of being the product of an under-privileged household or abusive parents because honestly I was neither. While we did not attain riches by any means (and I mean that by the standard of dollars) – we certainly did not live in squalor either. I did not grow up with too many brothers or sisters; actually I was an only child. Let me take that one step farther by letting you know I was adopted, so I knew I was wanted, even when my parents didn’t make it a focused goal of showing it. My father proudly served in the US Army the bulk on my childhood so I gained the benefits of growing up all over the United States as well as spending years in Europe. Thus, I am unable to say that I grew up with a narrow focus of what types of people, personalities or cultures exist in our world. I came to know many of those culture, races, religions and personality types from a young age will into my adulthood.
Like so many others, even you perhaps, I gained a well-rounded and diverse set of experiences while growing up. Yet, I still made a series of poor choices during my early adult life. Choices that, as I look back with 20/20 vision, were the result of not knowing what I wanted, not knowing where I wanted to go and, basically, not having any kind of goal to look forward to in my life. Choices that put me in a place I never imagined I would be (and never want to be again). I experienced some dark times in my life (as I know many of my readers have – often far worse than mine). Times when I thought I would not see too many more years – or even days. Times when I thought the whole worlds goal out against me. Times when I felt like nothing I did was going to pull me out of the seemingly bottomless pit I was not only leaning over, but now I was clearly falling fall into.
It was during one of these dark times that I realized and set a goal to get focused on what I DID want. I was not longer going to let the tracks of someone else’s rollercoaster (their goals) suck me down another unknown, dark and unwanted tunnel filled with screams of fear and pain rather than the screams of joy and excitement.
This is the journey I want to take you on – the journey of facing off and breaking out of the grip forged by this type of thinking, the fear, the mental and success paralysis that it carries with it, and share with you the learning’s, the tips and the keys I used to flip my life from a fear filled rollercoaster ride of emptiness, to the goal of having a joyful, fulfilled life for me and those that I am about to touch.
The posts from this blog we be coming at you more frequently then you have experience in the past as I take you on and share this journey with you – I look forward to reading your comments, hearing about your experiences and seeing if you too can benefit from goal setting, rollercoasters (where you are in control) and screams (of joy!).
Think successfully & Take Action!
Tracy Brinkmann
One of Today’s TOP Motivated Coaches
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